This resonates with me deeply, whether relating to deeply-rooted trauma or wounding in the mental and psychological aspects or in the physical of the actual or body, pain, etc. — or both (often both).
It is a fine line between our work and doing our best as healers to return to the most authentic representation of self. To be open to assist and support with an open heart and be non-judgemental with continuing to focus on a deep connection to the source is what I always personally come back to.
If you are a professional healer in any modality that does this for a living or simply a novice who has been a powerful assistant in supporting your friends/family in their healing journeys, I sincerely support you for choosing to step up and continue your mission.
I always have a little “cosmic laugh” to myself as often I have clients come to me who have been doing the work with professional psychologists, therapists, etc. for much of their life. Then when they come to work with me, they say they move through a lifetime of healing in just a few sessions/weeks or months.
I believe safety, trust, and a deep commitment to doing the work myself daily have much to do with this.
6 things I always bring my awareness back to:
Healing isn’t linear, nor is it black and white. As a healer, I don’t boss around or tell people what they need to do to their life to become better and happier versions of themselves. I guide them toward their desired path and let them arrive at their own “AHA!” moments.
This is when they realize the things that they need to let go, continue, or do so they can become who or what they want to be. I am merely an instrument to help them get to their authentic, happier selves.
Sometimes, our perceived reality hinders us from enjoying the fullness of life. Truths limit us from unlocking our potential as they can make us feel self-conscious, guilty, or judged. But what is truth, anyway? For me, truth is knowing what you are and living it to the best of your ability. It’s about being comfortable with your identity, goals, values, and present moment and then working to become happier, content, or fulfilled. Truths are cheery and gloomy versions of ourselves that we sometimes suppress or stifle to fit in, feel accepted, or acknowledge.
Being too emotionally or mentally invested with a client can be draining and exhausting. While I see my clients as friends and genuinely want them to grow, I know my boundaries and set them accordingly. My motivation is that if I want to support and guide more people’s journeys, I should set my boundaries. Else, I would be drained and consumed by a few people’s experiences without having the opportunity to provide assistance to more.
My awareness of limitations comes with my recognition of my potential and ability to heal people.
Feeling like you did all the work as a healer to make your client better and happier can be dangerous. The idea of seeing clients grow and reach their full potential because of your guidance and support may be a boost to your ego. However, getting it in the head and having this sense of importance may affect how you deal with your clients. When I impart my knowledge, I check my ego out the door. I only think of the client and the best way to guide them to achieve their goals. It’s not about how great I am in healing them, but it’s about helping them get to their own path. Their healing isn’t my journey nor my achievements.
6.) Often, the biggest healing is to simply witness and say nothing
It can be tempting to say everything all at once to quicken the process and get the client to where they want to be or who they want to become. However, recognizing that it is the client’s journey and not mine enables me to slow it down and become more intentional in my words. The most significant contribution to their journey is often witnessing their eyes flicker as they realised their own doings or acknowledge the actions they need to do. Again, their journey isn’t mine; I merely guide them to their own path.
Each journey is unique and to have the opportunity to guide people on their path and journey is something I don’t think for granted. I acknowledge the trust and respect, which is why I always guide with an open heart and non-judgemental energy to deepen the connection and help my friends reach their full potential and become their authentic selves.